You've Resigned, Congratulations!
So the frog wonders: When did we get to the point where leaving a job was more of an event to celebrate than starting one? Are we so frustrated with our work that our time off is more precious than having something satisfying to do? Are we so overworked that we can't view our careers as anything more than drudgery--a way to pay the bills?
I always noticed that co-workers seemed incredibly envious when someone quit. In the last 10 years, anyway.
Then they wonder why my back blew out?
I liked my job, it was on my own timeclock, it got me to walk more than I ever had in my life, and it gave me the freedom to buy lots and lots of shoes..I miss that last part :p
Yes, startups can burn you out pretty fast. But the big companies are no better these days - maybe worse. The computer industry (which I think you said you work in) has changed a lot since I started lo these 18 years ago.
Abi, indeed the industry has changed dramatically, but I'm wondering if it's changed as much as I have. I can remember a time when I had much more tolerance the day-to-day bullsh*t. Not so any more.
NBfH, Gates just wants a different challenge. MS doesn't do it for him anymore, I guess.
I suppose the type of career field you're in has a lot to do with job burnout. I really enjoy my job, and I guess that's the most important thing. I measure my success by how I feel when I get up in the morning. If I look forward to going to work on most of the days I wake up, I feel successful. And that's pretty much how I feel with my current job.
The other extreme can be just as bad, though. You should always be happy about going home at the end of the day rather than wearing that job around your neck like a boat anchor.
I've noticed the same thing -- everyone is happy for co-workers when they leave. Recent development? I don't know. I can't remember it ever being any other way since I joined the workforce.
Personally, I like my job -- doing the actual work I am paid to produce, that is. But it's the crap that goes along with it I resent, e.g., being forced to dress in something other than a t-shirt, shorts and flip flops, driving 30 miles and sitting in a souless gray cube all day. And the rancid office politics I could do without as well...
May your future ventures include none of those things!
It is funny that that is our first impulse (or at least mine) to say Congrats. I can't imagine that was the case 50 years ago - where leaving a job would have been a bad thing - especially if you didn't have another one already lined up. I think back then, you were expected to stay with the same company forever and continue working to provide for the family.
Now, we have a different attitude. If we leave a job to take some time off, "that's good because we deserve it." Also, people move around so much from company to company, there is no longer a stigma about it and the attitude is "you'll get another job". And, of course, because for most people, work is an unnecessary evil, "Congrats" would be the first thing one would think - right after "you lucky dog".
I can remember a time when managers cared about their employees careers. Now the only concern I can find falls into two categories 1) Get the maximum work and creativity our of the hapless schmucks and forget burnout because there will always be more software engineers to replace the one's who can't hack it (that's in the startups), or 2) Make sure everyone "looks" busy and that nobody stands out (larger, established companies).
Being creative, begin self-motivated, being responsible for absolutely every aspect of one's career from training to advancement, while at the same time trying to stay on top of every technological fad that comes down the pipe, is really freakin' tiring.