You've Resigned, Congratulations!

Yesterday was Kvatch's last day at his most recent employer, and he's now what you might call "a frog of leisure". And of course, he sent out the obligatory message to his friends and colleagues saying that he was leaving. Of the many responses only one expressed regret. All of the others were notes of congratulations.

So the frog wonders: When did we get to the point where leaving a job was more of an event to celebrate than starting one? Are we so frustrated with our work that our time off is more precious than having something satisfying to do? Are we so overworked that we can't view our careers as anything more than drudgery--a way to pay the bills?


I vote drudgery! That's why I quit so i could become a frazzled artist! But it's worth it!

I always noticed that co-workers seemed incredibly envious when someone quit. In the last 10 years, anyway.
I agree with Helen. Every time someone leaves the company I work for, it's a mixture of sadness and envy. For me, anyway.
Of my last four jobs, three were tech start-ups and at these I typically work so hard that I need a sabbatical afterwards. But it seems to me that nobody I know likes their work, unless they're working for themselves that is. Maybe it's just the crowd I run with.
So this would be the reason for the retro-intoxicants. I'm still trying to overcome that time-warp feeling.
I'm so happy in my job that I never, ever blog from work. Or post comments. No, sir.
Tom, I'll never tell that you post from the same IP address range as the Frogette. Who knew that your flat was in a set of large downtown buildings that shall remain nameless.
Not every one hates their job, but you know that my favorite frog. I for one love my current job..which is basically sitting on my arse blogging, going to physical therapy three times a week and collecting a check from my employer. When I went out on disability two months ago, they had to replace me with THREE count em THREE people.

Then they wonder why my back blew out?

I liked my job, it was on my own timeclock, it got me to walk more than I ever had in my life, and it gave me the freedom to buy lots and lots of shoes..I miss that last part :p
...translation...more time for blogging? Congrats on firing the boss. Some one had to do it.
Kongrats, Kvatch. It's a nice time of year to be lazing around on the lily pads.

Yes, startups can burn you out pretty fast. But the big companies are no better these days - maybe worse. The computer industry (which I think you said you work in) has changed a lot since I started lo these 18 years ago.
Even Bill Gates agrees.
WS, that's for sure.

Abi, indeed the industry has changed dramatically, but I'm wondering if it's changed as much as I have. I can remember a time when I had much more tolerance the day-to-day bullsh*t. Not so any more.

NBfH, Gates just wants a different challenge. MS doesn't do it for him anymore, I guess.
Kongrats, Frogman.

I suppose the type of career field you're in has a lot to do with job burnout. I really enjoy my job, and I guess that's the most important thing. I measure my success by how I feel when I get up in the morning. If I look forward to going to work on most of the days I wake up, I feel successful. And that's pretty much how I feel with my current job.

The other extreme can be just as bad, though. You should always be happy about going home at the end of the day rather than wearing that job around your neck like a boat anchor.
Congrats on leaving that particular brand of drudgery behind!

I've noticed the same thing -- everyone is happy for co-workers when they leave. Recent development? I don't know. I can't remember it ever being any other way since I joined the workforce.

Personally, I like my job -- doing the actual work I am paid to produce, that is. But it's the crap that goes along with it I resent, e.g., being forced to dress in something other than a t-shirt, shorts and flip flops, driving 30 miles and sitting in a souless gray cube all day. And the rancid office politics I could do without as well...

May your future ventures include none of those things!

It is funny that that is our first impulse (or at least mine) to say Congrats. I can't imagine that was the case 50 years ago - where leaving a job would have been a bad thing - especially if you didn't have another one already lined up. I think back then, you were expected to stay with the same company forever and continue working to provide for the family.

Now, we have a different attitude. If we leave a job to take some time off, "that's good because we deserve it." Also, people move around so much from company to company, there is no longer a stigma about it and the attitude is "you'll get another job". And, of course, because for most people, work is an unnecessary evil, "Congrats" would be the first thing one would think - right after "you lucky dog".
Thanks for all of the kind words everyone. After doing some thinking and reflecting, I have agree with Abi. (We're both apparently in "the biz".) High-tech has changed so much in the last 20 years it's hardly recognizable. And what appears to be missing is any concern for the engineers that are making things happen.

I can remember a time when managers cared about their employees careers. Now the only concern I can find falls into two categories 1) Get the maximum work and creativity our of the hapless schmucks and forget burnout because there will always be more software engineers to replace the one's who can't hack it (that's in the startups), or 2) Make sure everyone "looks" busy and that nobody stands out (larger, established companies).

Being creative, begin self-motivated, being responsible for absolutely every aspect of one's career from training to advancement, while at the same time trying to stay on top of every technological fad that comes down the pipe, is really freakin' tiring.
This is good to read. I thought I was just some disgruntled person; although I'm usually so positive and upbeat that it seemed strange. Indeed, leaving is such a relief. It reminds me of the guy who bangs his head against the wall because it feels so good to stop. Good for you Kvatch and may this lead to greater happiness all around.

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